Family Rights

We've been on the frontline of the Covid-19 pandemic for the last year so had to cease our Gay Sperm Bank activities. It's also fortunate that Facebook has become a repository for connections between couples and singles seeking sperm.

LGBTQI Orthodontists meanwhile are in the news as supporting changes to legislation in a number of Western countries to include dental realignment in the surgical pantheon for transgender patients. The Safe Space Alliance provides information about LGBTQI orthodontists and dental clinics and many of these dentists are advocating for the recognition of cosmetic dentistry as a component of gender reassignment surgery.

Dentistry for transgender people is greatly informed by the website Trans Gender Map which has this perspective to share:

Retired plastic surgeon and dentist Douglas Ousterhout noted that while teeth are generally similar, men’s and women’s chins tend to differ in terms of pointiness.

Trans people have reported discrimination in dental offices. The American Dental Association has information for members on Avoiding Gender Identity Discrimination In Your Office.

If you feel you have been treated disrespectfully or discriminated against, let the owner or manager know of your concerns. If they do not address them, you can report your experiences on consumer review sites like Yelp, to the Better Business Bureau, and to various professional organizations. Depending on where you live, this may also be illegal.

Human teeth have substantial overlap in shape and position in relation to gender. In one study, the general public and even dental professionals had a worse-than-chance record for identifying the assigned sex of human teeth from photographs.

In many places, cultural norms identify stereotypically “masculine” and “feminine” teeth.

LGBTQI Orthodontists An Industry Body

In mapping the Transgender Smile and its cosmetic surgery ramifications there is much progress in articles appearing in media discussing this subject.

Where we have been unable to offer our services and update our website lately, Sperm Donation Facebook Groups have risen up and have proven very effective in bringing sperm donors and women wanting sperm including lesbian couples. We recommend you join them. The linked one above, based in Australia, has over 12,000 members.

In any human condition or manifestation, anxiety about orthodontics, jaw alignment and dental work is inevitable. Finding a dentist or orthodontist who has a lot of empathy and integrity who you can talk to at length about such matters is extremely important to anyone who is already undertaking the physical trauma of gender reassignment surgery.

It's fortunate we now live in a Western world (anyway) who is much more accepting of diversity and difference. Even in countries known for their slow uptake of climate change, lingering racism against its indigenous people and slower-than-others legalisation of gay marriage, one can now expect orthodontists in far-flung places to also support LGBTQI patients on their cosmetic dental journeys to an appearance more harmonious with their self-perception and identity. There's no identity politics in business - this is the optimum ideal anyway.

The concept of LGBTQI orthodontists may still be hard to assimilate for a lot of conservative people, but the world is changing and right now humankind has a much bigger fish to fry - Covid-19 does not discriminate and the Delta variant threatens even the healthy and young.

Human beings are irrational beasts with mobile phones pressed to their ears. I hear alarmist snippets about the dangers of 5G from the occasional friend or relative. I watched the Four Corners programme about the protest movement making waves against 5G. I have done some cursory online research intro the topic, utilising my skills as an academic, and found little or no scientific evidence for serious concern. Do 5G electronic signals and radiation damage sperm counts? No is the simple answer, according to the World Health Organisation, not in the amounts of radiation we normally encounter on a day to day basis.

Numerous Studies Have Found No Real Evidence Linking 5G to Low Sperm Counts

Do electricians have to worry about such stuff, as they work with these electromagnetic fields and radiation more often? Apparently not. Consult a professional electrician and question him or her yourself, as to their worry about this issue, and you will not find any real concerns. There are numerous studies, which have asked – Do 5G electronic signals and radiation damage sperm counts? The facts remain that there is no conclusive proof to directly link the two factors. Declining sperm counts and infertility in modern societies may be the result of many environmental factors.

5G Has Become a Rallying Issue for Sections of Humanity Feeling Powerless

5G has become a rallying issue for sections of humanity that feel increasingly powerless and marginalised by the roll out of technologies in western democracies around the globe. Stopping the seemingly unfettered explosion of technology and the march of civilisation into AI is an understandable reaction in many ways. People are asking where is the government oversight into these things? Who is questioning industry and these high-tech corporate giants about their plans? No one is standing up to this onslaught of progress and it seems likely that it has become an arms race of communication technology. The politicians are most probably in the pockets of industry in the United States and elsewhere.

Conspiracy theorists are a result of a lack of trust in governments and a paucity of intelligence within the community. Free enterprise market economies love stupid people, as they can sell tons of extraneous junk to them. There are billions of people believing in all sorts of untrue and unproven stuff. Most people do not know how to tell the wheat from the chaff, when it comes to accessing information via the internet. Think of Donald Trump and his supporters in the United States. The medical facts about COVID-19 and 5G have certain parallels in their seemingly elusive nature for many human beings on this planet.

It needs to be said that we here at the Gay Sperm Bank hate dentists. Yes we feel sorry for them, staring inside people's gobs every day, but it's what they do to us that is the source of our hate. Dental anxiety is the core of it, pain is what runs it, once the drugs wear off the rage kicks in.

It's a simple fact that many dentists are simply mean. They derive pleasure from causing pain, they remove your beloved teeth and say "you should have come here earlier" while doing it. Make us feel guilty for not giving them more regular money by visiting them for dental check-ups, paying attention to their websites' lectures about dental hygiene, and ask us to purchase dental dams for lesbian licking sessions only from their online store, not when there's hordes of rich schoolkids in the waiting room for their regular Invisalign check ups.

But when it comes to emergency dentists you have to show some respect. With Coronavirus in the air, they're on the front line like any medical professional. If someone is in excruciating pain, if they've knocked a tooth out while trying to stay 1.5 metres away from a fellow supermarket shopper, or maybe fighting over a roll of toilet paper, then yep, they're there, and in fact in most countries now the only dental service that dentists are allowed to provide is emergency dentistry.

Gone, thanks to COVID-19, is the cosmetic dentistry, the smile makeover, the teeth whitening, the digital smile design, the Invisalign and the orthodontics. So now if you're visiting a dentist during this pandemic you're likely to be having dental anxiety as well as being in a great deal of pain, because emergencies are the only way you're going to be in a dentist's chair.

So this story brings us to the one dentist who will always be a hero for what he did in an emergency. He doesn't want the publicity, but he's a gay dentist. And one of our successful moms, waiting for her daughter to have her a dental cavity filled, suddenly felt herself going into labour. As she'd had a child many years before, the baby came out fast, and our gay dentist friend, in a truly unique emergency, delivered the baby in his dentist's chair. All we can tell you is that the lucky mom had her second daughter, and her daughter's name is Isabelle. Congratulations mom and daughter, and dentist!

Kids’ parties can be a battleground for identity in the 21C. Yes, those cute little affairs with fairies, pirates, princesses, superheroes, cowboys, and furry animals. Nothing brings an individual’s gender conditioning to the fore, as obviously as parenting. Family and cultural pressure is, often, brought to bear on these innocent little kiddies. Everyone has an opinion about what they should wear, including grandma and grandpa, parents, parent siblings and, even, friends. Colours for boys and colours for girls. The world seems very concerned at how these tots start out in life. Helping LGBTQI children join in with the crowd, yet grow their identity is an important aspect to consider.

Let Your Children Express Themselves

There might be male children who like feminine-orientated activities, such as unicorn parties. Conversely, there may be biologically identified girl children who wish to express their uber tomboy-ness. Let your children express themselves, how they want to, from the earliest time possible. We are learning not to impose our expectations upon our children, especially in terms of gender identity and sexual orientation. It is all about having fun and being accepted for who they are. Actually, when searching for medical insights into children’s psychology, being open to an unbiased discovery is the most important quality for parents of LGBTQI children.

Don’t Lie To Your Kids

Have you ever noticed how all parents portrayed on TV and in movies continually lie to their children? Ostensibly, they behave this way in an attempt to protect their kids from unpalatable truths. However, lying for whatever reason, usually, causes more problems than you originally started with. I would advise parents of all children, not just of LGBTQI kids, to refrain from lying to their kids. People of all ages deserve the truth, it is the only way they can, then, make informed decisions.

Innocence does not need to be protected by lies and omissions of truth. Innocence can withstand heartfelt honesty in all its emotional intensity. LGBTQI children do require a commitment to constant truthfulness by their parents and friends. In a world, which is still coming to terms with gender diversity and sexual orientation, it can be challenging for those individuals who appear to be swimming in a different direction with an unfamiliar stroke. If we can all remember that life is at its most beautiful when it offers the greatest diversity, then, this planet will be a better place for all to live on.

Thanks to Australia’s gay men, the number of sperm donors in the country is increasing, ABC reported. As per the statistical data from the Fertility Society of Australia, the country’s sperm donors are comprised mostly of men from the United States. Usually, lesbian couples are the number one market of sperms from gay donors. In fact, a gay man in the United Kingdom had fathered 10 babies of lesbian women he met on Facebook.

Donating sperm to strangers is like a gamble. In this case, there are no free bookie bets that will allow you to try the game before investing in it. For instance, a British gay man donated his sperm to a lesbian couple years ago. But when they got separated, the child was raised by one of them. Due to a law regarding sperm donation, the gay man was forced to give child support to the kid he fathered.

May it be because of the financial benefits or out of love, some gay men give away their sperm. However, gay men in the United States are now prohibited from donating their sperm. This is in lieu with the recent guidelines of the Food and Drug Agency that bars gay men from donating sperm. According to the said agency, gay men are at high risk of carrying the AIDS virus.

There are also uncertainties surrounding gay sperm donors. Will their biological child turn out gay? Will the children be okay that their biological father is gay?

Gay Genes and Homosexuality
Homosexuality is definitely a hot issue. Some people argue that environmental factors trigger homosexuality. There are also those who believe that our genes are at fault here. However, research shows that genetics influences our sexual orientation.

Soon-to-be parents need not to worry about their children hating them for choosing a gay sperm donor. In fact, a study conducted by the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that kids who have gay dads are as well-adjusted as kids of straight parents. Other data illustrate that 88 percent of the surveyed group observed that their children are not depressed about their situation. That being said, at least one-fifth of the children experienced slurs from other people because of their gay dads.

In the end, regardless of the gay sperm situation, how the children view the world and make out of their situation depends on their upbringing.

With young LGBTQI couples wanting to celebrate their new found legally married status in America by having children, the issue of funding comes up. Having kids costs money whether you are gay, straight or queer; and if we are going to change the world by producing beautiful tolerant human beings then we all need to chip in. Imagine, millions of loving children parented by loving LGBTQIs and all the colors of the rainbow being recognized by church and state. I am going to make a suggestion, which may seem ‘out there’ but, I think, is also a great idea.

Crowdfunding for LGBTQI parents who are in need of some financial support. We do not want to be bringing up LGBTQI kids in poverty, do we? We do not want any kids, whoever their parents are, being brought up in poverty. Well loved and nurtured children require materially sufficient households to grow up in. What about all those wealthy LGBTQIs, who do not wish to have their own children, getting involved through crowdfunding as some sort of ‘fairy god parents’. A relationship with a child can be an inspiring thing, helping him or her to achieve the things they want to achieve. Perhaps, as mentor or benevolent uncle or aunty; these people can share in the joy of bringing up children.

As in many indigenous communities, in the past and in the present, parenting was and is shared within the community. These kinds of things will make our LGBTQI communities stronger and more inclusive; with greater positive interaction between members based on shared responsibilities and love. Gay Sperm Bank (GSB) sees crowdfunding as a great financial structure to launch a ‘fairy god parent’ scheme into the broader LGBTQI community. Why should Crowdfunding always be about business funding? Why shouldn’t it embrace something even more important? Crowdfunding could replace the need for debt management; which confronts so many desperate parents.

Economically, advocacy of crowdfunding - with 45 million Americans below the poverty line, funding for impoverished LGBTQI couples is not so much a possibility as it should be an instant reality. Set up a crowdfunding website and establish your target budget, including a college education. Funding need not come in all at once, it could be an incremental things, as needed. You can post images online of family celebrations, sporting events and special achievements. The joy that this website could bring to the extended LGBTQI community through enriching relationships is mind boggling.

As of June 26, 2015 all American states are compelled to recognise and license same sex marriages based on the decision of the Supreme Court in Obergefell v. Hodges. There are still a few states, as of January 2016, defying these federal same sex marriage laws. The opportunity to get legally married must be seen as a major step toward LGBTQI family rights. Prior to this sodomy laws have been struck down, also in the US Supreme Court, and repeals of Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act have also occurred.

In 2010 President Barack Obama made changes to hospital visitation and moral decision-making rights to allow gay and lesbian partners recognition in this fundamental and highly sensitive area. This followed a number of distressing cases where partners and children were denied access to their partners by hospitals, even in terminal situations. LGBTQI family rights: an update on USA legislation shows it to be a work in progress; but progress is being made.

Importantly, access to IVF and sperm donors has been a LGBTQI right for some time now; which goes to the heart of family rights. Now, as the right to marry and have their marriages officially recognized by federal law, LGBTQIs can enjoy the rights of all Americans and have families. There is always a time lag between new legislation and acceptance from the public at large; but these courageous people are no stranger to insensitive behaviours by the ‘so-called’ moral majority. The big difference now is that LGBTQIs have the law on their side.

With the federal election year now in full swing, LGBTQIs will be watching the Democrat versus Republican political battle with interest. Obviously, a Republican victory would set the reform agenda back but they will not have immediate control over the Supreme Court; the freedom of the judiciary is where the greatest LGBTQI family rights victories have occurred. A Bernie Sanders or Hilary Clinton victory in the presidential race would continue the rapid progress, now being made in LGBTQI human rights.

Gay Sperm Bank (GSB) urges all LGBTQIs to get involved in the political contest and continue the great work that has been done in this area by LGBTQI activists and lobbyists to this date. GSB wants to see stronger LGBTQI communities and more LGBTQI parents having babies and children. Family rights are the rights of all American citizens. The fight is not yet over.

Conceiving a child is not always straight forward, whether you are gay or straight. Fertility support for lesbian couples is sometimes needed; as it is for heterosexual couples who are having trouble conceiving. There is no shame or anything else in seeking help in this situation; in fact it makes perfect sense. Lesbian couples have a number of options when they choose to have a child. They can contact a willing male friend to be the sperm donor and they can either use the ‘turkey baster’ method or contrive the insemination through other means.

Legally in America, they are not allowed to use fresh sperm for insemination, due to the risk of transmitting infectious diseases. The sperm must be frozen and quarantined for six months prior to insemination. In addition, the donor must be tested before he donates his sperm, and at the time of thawing it out for insemination, for HIV I & II, all STDs, Hepatitis B & C, and HTLV.

Frozen sperm rates show that only one in eight men will have sperm capable of withstanding the defrost process. The cost of testing, freezing and thawing donor sperm is also expensive; and with the sperm of a friend there is no guarantee that it will work. Fertility support for lesbian couples in America is still fairly discriminative. As insurers can demand proof of infertility before they will cover the costs involved in artificial insemination.

Success rates of turkey basting artificial insemination are very low, around less than five percent; in most cases repeated attempts are necessary. Another alternative is Intra Uterine Insemination (IUI), using donor sperm under the guidance of an endocrinologist. The success rate of this technique can be as high as fifteen to twenty five percent; especially with Clomid helping ovulation. If all of these techniques fail repeatedly then IVF treatments are available. IVF is expensive, but it has high rates of success when compared with the processes already listed. The age of the woman wishing to conceive is also a major factor and must be taken into consideration.

There are a number of natural remedies and pharmaceuticals on the market designed to improve a woman’s fertility; and thus her ability to conceive. Infertility treatment advice can be sought from a number of medical specialist clinics in this field. Intra Cytoplasmic Sperm Insemination (ICSI) is also available; and this is where an immature sperm is injected into an egg.